The Biggest Saboteur in Creating What You Want in Life…

“I want a lot of patients so I can help more people and have financial overflow” I said to my coach. She paused with deep reflection.  Did I say something wrong, I said?  You did not say anything wrong, she clarified. However,  you just said to me that you do not want more patients because you are too tired and you don’t like it…

I gulped. I could now see the contradiction in what I shared.  Of course things were not moving forward if I was continually putting out mixed messages. Prayers cannot be answered, connections cannot be made, dreams cannot be fulfilled if I am asking for 2 different things.  I felt so grateful that my Coach ‘M’ had shared this with me with so much honesty. 

So what is one of the biggest saboteurs in a successful business and life? It is when our beliefs are conflicted, shaky, unsure. It is when our beliefs are not matching what we want and it is expressed in language, actions and interactions with others. 

Often, this is very insidious. We don’t even know what we are saying.  I can actually think back to another time in my life when a dear friend pointed out that I always said “everything is hard”.  At the time I thought to myself “WTF” and now I realized, that is one of the greatest gifts – honesty! If nothing changes on a small scale, nothing will change on a big scale. If you have friends who will be honest with you, you are blessed

So, how to you start to get ahead of the curve of this saboteur?

1)    Listen to your language.

2)    Check into how your body is feeling. (If you are slumped over, not making eye contact and hunched up, your body is giving you a clue. If your shoulders are back, eye contact and big smile, your body is giving you a clue!)

3)    Ask yourself if mixed results are coming about. (Note my example above).

In today’s wellness culture, we often get caught up in green juices and supplements and the truest transformative work is actually taking a good hard look at the beliefs that bind us. (Or in a liberated state, the beliefs that free us). 

What is the fastest way to step into this leap, into the next layer of you, the next chapter of you that can create the world you want?  A beautiful personal + family life and a thriving business? Start to listen to your language! Can you think about how much effort we put into what we wear, what brand of our cell phone or car is and the hand bag we carry? And yet, we don’t tune in to one of the biggest things we project onto the world each day, our words!

Consider this to be your challenge to notice your words, reflect on your words and choose new words!

And if you want to quantum leap changes in your life to overcome burnout and recover your sparkle, consider me your wing woman.  As a former naturopathic doctor and marketing exec who overcame burnout and rediscovered ‘the old sparkly me’, it is my highest honour to coach amazing women like you! DM me on Instagram at @emilyelliot__ to set up a chat if this feels like something you have been deeply aching for! Thanks for being here.